Thursday, September 28, 2017

#AllianceRocks for #DVAM2017

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month and the Alliance Against Family Violence is doing a rock hunting challenge. We will be hiding our AAFV painted rocks all around Leavenworth County to raise awareness for domestic violence. If you find one of our rocks, take a picture, post it on one of our social media pages (Facebook or Twitter), and then re-hide the rock somewhere in the Leavenworth area. Everyone who participates will be entered into a drawing at the end of the month to win a basket filled with goodies from our amazing local businesses!

If you prefer rock painting over rock hunting, that works too! Just decorate a rock (however many you like!) with "AAFV" clearly painted on it, take a pic, post to one of our social media sites, and then hide!

Don't forget to spread the word to all your family and friends! We will be providing clues on our social media pages about where some of our rocks can be found. The more people who participate, the more people we can reach with our very important message: STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!!

#AllianceRocks #DVAM2017 #GoPurple #StopTheSilence

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month and it has its own hashtag: #TDVAM

Dating violence is a major issue facing adolescents and teenagers today. It's important to educate tweens and teens about this issue before it becomes a problem in their own life. Here are a few facts:

--One in four adolescents reports verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse each year.
--One in five adolescents reports being a victim of emotional abuse each year.
--One in five high school students has been physically or sexually abused by a dating partner
--Dating violence among their peers is reported by 54% of high school students
--One in three teens report knowing a friend or peer who has been physically hurt by his or her partner through violent actions which included hitting, punching, kicking, slapping, and/or choking.
--Eighty percent of teens believe verbal abuse is a serious issue for their age group.
--Nearly 80% of girls who have been victims of physical abuse in their dating relationships continue to date the abuser.
--Nearly 20% of teen girls who have been in a relationship said that their boyfriend had threatened violence or self-harm in the event of a break-up.
--Nearly 70% of young women who have been raped knew their rapist; the perpetrator was or had been a boyfriend, friend, or casual acquaintance.
--The majority of teen dating abuse occurs in the home of one of the partners.

(**taken from

Take the time this month to talk to teens about what a healthy relationship is, and how to recognize warning signs of abuse.

Click here for more information on Tweens and dating violence.

Click here for more information on Teen Dating Violence.

Talk to your kids!! Make sure they know that LOVE = RESPECT.

Thursday, January 12, 2017

Domestic Violence Is Real

Stories like the one below about Tara O'Shea-Watson are the reason why it's so important to spread awareness about the seriousness of domestic violence. We need to make it a priority in our society to STOP the abuse. Domestic Violence is real, but unfortunately the ones who are most vulnerable don't have a voice. That's why YOUR voice is so important.

Here are some ways you can help stop domestic violence, taken from

1. Know the signs. Domestic violence can happen to anyone—white, black, young, old, rich, poor, educated, not educated. Sometimes violence begins early on in a relationship and other times it takes months or even years to appear. But there generally are some warning signs. Be wary of the following red flags an abuser may exhibit at any point in a relationship:
  • Being jealous of your friends or time spent away from your partner
  • Discouraging you from spending time away from your partner
  • Embarrassing or shaming you
  • Controlling all financial decisions
  • Making you feel guilty for all the problems in the relationship
  • Preventing you from working
  • Intentionally damaging your property
  • Threatening violence against you, your pets or someone you love to gain compliance
  • Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to
  • Intimidating you physically, especially with weapons
2. Don’t ignore it. Police officers hear the same thing from witnesses again and again—I heard/saw/perceived domestic violence but didn’t want to get involved. If you hear your neighbors engaged in a violent situation, call the police. It could save a life.
3. Lend an ear. If someone ever confides in you they are experiencing domestic violence, listen without judgment. Believe what they are telling you and ask how you can help, or see this list of 25 ways to help a survivor.
4. Be available. If someone you know is thinking about leaving or is in fear the violence will escalate, be ready to help. Keep your phone with you and the ringer on, make sure you have gas in your car and discuss an escape plan or meeting place ahead of time.
5. Know the number to a nearby shelter. You never know who might need refuge in a hurry. Keep numbers to shelters (AAFV: 913-682-9131) and the National Domestic Violence Hotline in your phone (800-799-7233).
6. Check in regularly. If a loved one or friend is in danger, reach out regularly to ensure his or her safety.
7. Be a resource. Someone experiencing violence may not be able to research shelters, escape plans or set up necessities like bank accounts and cell phones while living with his or her abuser. Offer to do the legwork to help ease stress and keep things confidential. Here’s a list of items a survivor may need to take with them.
8. Write it down. Document every incident you witness and include the date, time, location, injuries and circumstances. This information could be very useful in later police reports and court cases, both criminal and civil.
9. Get the word out. Assist a local shelter or domestic violence organization in their efforts to raise awareness in your community. Or use your personal connections to start a grassroots campaign. Organize talks at your workplace wellness fair, HOA meetings and church groups.
10. Put your money where your mouth is. Use your power as a consumer and refuse to support theculture perpetuated in music, movies, television, games and the media that glorifies violence, particularly against women.

Tuesday, December 6, 2016

Breah's Gift

Breah Miller is a young girl with a big heart. When she turned ten a few weeks ago, Breah decided to transform the occasion into a charitable event. She invited all her friends to her birthday party, but instead of gifts, Breah asked her guests to provide donations for the AAFV shelter based on the needs list on our website.

Brett Miller, Breah's dad, explained: "We, as a family, have always been supporters of The Alliance, CASA, and various food pantries. Even at a young age, our kids were aware of their daily blessings as well as the plight of others less fortunate."

The Millers rented out the skating center for a big party to celebrate Breah and her twin brother, Brogan.  According to Mr. Miller, "We rent out the entire skating center so the only people there are their friends. They are allowed to invite as many people as they want, and their invite lists get very long!"

Breah and Brogan wanted to use the opportunity to give back to their community and help people in need. Their intent was to raise awareness to some of the hardships that many are going through by encouraging their friends to help with their philanthropic effort. "Brogan collected two shopping carts full of food for the Leavenworth Mission and Food Pantry. Breah chose to collect toiletries and cleaning supplies for the Alliance," Mr. Miller said.
When we asked why Breah chose the AAFV, she explained, “I wanted to donate there because I wanted to help women in need and their kids."

The AAFV staff members were very touched by Breah's thoughtfulness and wanted to share her story with everyone. We are so thankful for those in our community who back our mission to help survivors of violence. When a person as young as Breah raises awareness for those in need, it is a beautiful example of the hope we have for our future generation. We extend our thanks to Breah and her awesome family and friends for their goodwill and support!

Sunday, December 4, 2016

The Spirit of Giving!

The AAFV is so appreciative of the generous community that supports us throughout the year! We rely on donations to keep our programs and shelter running, and to help so many victims of violence in Leavenworth County and surrounding areas. If you would like to donate to the AAFV, we have compiled a "Wish List" of things that would really help right now.

December 2016 "Wish List" for Shelter Facilities:

For outdoors: large, hinged lid outdoor trash cans with wheels (4-6)

For rooms: over the door hooks, clip on fans/lights, pop up hampers

For living room: dvd/vcr combo, large cabinet for dvd/vhs tape storage

Power strips/extension cords

Gift cards (Walmart, Dillons, Visa, etc.)

Basic Needs:

Heavy duty trash bags (30 gallon-plus), bleach, cleaner refills, Lysol spray

Hoover type Y & Dirt Devil type D vacuum bags

New batteries (all sizes: AA, AAA, C, D)

Universal cell phone chargers, used cell phones with chargers

Room deodorizers (non plug-in type)

Aluminum foil, gallon size Ziploc bags

Bleach, laundry detergent, dryer sheets

Dishwasher soap, hand wash dish soap with degreaser

Shampoo/conditioner sets (regular sized, not miniature), family sized lotion, floss, handsoap

Travel sized antibacterial gel, chapstick (lip balm)

Antibacterial cream, cough medicine, cough drops, prenatal vitamins

Small pads of paper, pens

Tea, coffee, creamer, sugar, cooking spices and seasonings, pancake mix and syrup

Crackers, cooking oil, granola bars, fruit snacks, jam and jelly

Thursday, December 1, 2016

Thank you, Mr. Lansing!

Congratulations to Brian Burns who was crowned "Mr. Lansing" this evening at Lansing High School. This was a fantastic event, and all the proceeds were donated to the Leavenworth CAC (Child Advocacy Center) which is affiliated with the AAFV and works to protect children from violence in the Leavenworth community. Thank you to all who supported Mr. Lansing and the CAC!

Wednesday, November 23, 2016

Audrie & Daisy

The new Netflix documentary Audrie and Daisy tells the modern day story of two 14 year old girls who were sexually assaulted by high school athletes. This is a powerful documentary for parents, educators, coaches, and teenagers to watch. It provides an excellent springboard for a much needed discussion that we should all be having in order to educate our youth on the issues of bullying, sexual harassment, dating violence and sexual assault.

The organization "Futures Without Violence" has included resources on the Audrie and Daisy website that can be used at home, in classrooms, and in locker rooms. It's time we stand up to this issue and talk openly and honestly with our youth about teenage relationships, so they understand the difference between what is healthy and what is not. It's vital that we instill values that help them understand what is right and wrong when it comes to sexuality and consent.

Audrie and Daisy is streaming on Netflix now. We highly recommend watching it if you have teenagers in your life.